Best TikTok Dating Advice For Women

If you use TikTok, you know that it’s filled with dating coaches and relationship experts who talk about everything from texting etiquette to who pays on the first date.

In this ocean of TikTok dating advice, there’s a lot of hot garbage.

But there are also nuggets of wisdom that can benefit women of all ages and backgrounds as they navigate the world of dating.

Below, you’ll find helpful advice from TikTok dating coaches and influencers who are doing the Lord’s work helping young women set high standards and healthy boundaries.

Best TikTok Dating Advice

1. Don’t tolerate disrespect in the name of “working it out”

@kitarose_Reply to @scurvyspade whew imma have to go ahead an leave ya 🤷🏽‍♀️ #kitasaidit♬ original sound – Kitarose_

This video perfectly sums up when to make an effort in solving your relationship problems and when to peace out.

Oftentimes, you’ll see people complain about how “no one wants to work through relationship problems anymore” but the truth is, some problems are dealbreakers.

And the only person who gets to decide what your dealbreakers are is YOU.

For instance, you don’t have to put up with a partner who is emotionally unavailable. Others might say that’s harsh, but what other people think is none of your business.

You’re the one who has to carry the weight of your decisions, and I’m sure you’d rather prioritize your happiness by acting in your own best interest.

2. Don’t be loyal to someone you just met

@kokobeauteThat’s what I would do 😉 #datingtips #loyaltyisroyalty #beloyalinlove♬ original sound – KokoBeaute

The oh-so-gorgeous Koko went viral earlier this year for having the audacity to have high dating standards, causing people everywhere to collectively lose their shit and accuse her of being a golddigger.

Because having certain expectations from your relationships is apparently evil now. Who knew that women having boundaries was so controversial? How dare we!

Anyhow, Koko’s advice regarding not being loyal to someone you just met is spot on.

Even if you click with someone right off the bat, don’t disappear into fantasy land and turn the person you’re dating into someone they’re not.

Unchecked fantasies will cause you to ignore signs you might be dating a manipulator because you’ve already built them up so much in your head, you couldn’t possibly risk being proven otherwise.

Instead of investing yourself too soon, be casual. Dating is ultimately a get-to-know-you phase, and a couple of good initial dates don’t have to mean anything.

3. Love doesn’t require suffering – dysfunctional relationships do

@shefasjourney#cc #boundaries101 #healthyboundaries #selflove #boundarytiktok #healthyrelationship s #relationshipadvice♬ dear katara – L.Dre

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve adopted the belief that healthy, loving relationships are peaceful and drama-free. And I’m not interested in anything else.

This is exactly the message that Shefa shared on her TikTok, emphasizing that “it isn’t love if you have to suffer”.

You might think this is common sense – and it absolutely should be – but many of us have been conditioned by society, especially movies and TV, that a lot of relationship drama means love.

Breaking free of that belief can really help you gauge what kind of qualities you’d like to see in your partner and make better dating decisions.

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4. Just say no to situationships

@babypinkhaus##stitch with @babypinkhaus He in his feelings lmaooo ##men ##dating ##bde ##fypシ♬ Big Energy – Latto

Babypinkhaus delivers some amazing TikTok dating advice in less than 60 seconds.

With women getting into situationships with emotional vampires left and right, this video hits the nail on the head regarding people who want the relationship package while retaining the right to dip whenever they choose without an explanation.

If you’re currently in a situationship, know that you don’t have to be a Cool Girl about it, sitting pretty while the other person tries to make up their mind about you.

Just think about it – do you even want to be with someone who can’t decide if they want to be with you or not?

Starting off a relationship on such a rocky foundation rarely leads to long-term happiness.

5. Don’t share your vulnerabilities too soon

@xpirednfabulous Your past, vulnerabilities, family issues, etc are ALL private matters. Share wisely! #fyp #foryou #relationshipadvice #datingadvice #hardtruthtuesday ♬ original sound – Official Expired N Fabulous

Faiza (a.k.a. xpirednfabulous on TikTok) has the following to say regarding sharing vulnerabilities and family issues with someone you’re dating: Don’t do it!

“But Aida, isn’t it a good thing to be open about your past, even if it’s painful? Doesn’t that increase intimacy? I don’t want to feel like I’m hiding things!”

First of all, there’s a marked difference between hiding information and being selective about how and when you share sensitive parts of yourself with someone new.

And if you can’t tell the difference between the two, then it’s a good idea to explore where this need to tell everyone everything comes from.

True intimacy builds with time – it cannot be forged by oversharing traumas from your past.

When you don’t have any boundaries regarding sharing delicate information, there’s also a higher chance you’ll let people in with bad intentions.

It makes it easy to get future-faked and manipulated. Narcissists in particular prey on empathetic, sensitive individuals.

Oversharing is not the only way to nurture a bond. Simply spending time together doing things you love can strengthen a connection.

When enough time has passed for trust to build organically, you can divulge sensitive stories – if you want to.

Remember, you don’t owe your romantic partner every single detail of your past. It’s absolutely okay to keep some information to yourself for as long as you like.

6. Don’t rearrange your life to accommodate someone you just met

@lobirddstay busy besties #dating #forthegirls #single #datingadvice #datingadviceforwomen♬ original sound – Lauren Berghoff

Lauren Berghoff makes a really important point about not bending over backward to fit someone you just met into your schedule.

And this rule also applies to canceling previously arranged plans the second the person you’re interested in asks you out.

Even if your plan was to vacuum, stick to it, and suggest another day for a date.

Respecting yourself means respecting your time. When someone wants to make plans at the last minute, dropping everything you’re doing gives off desperate energy – especially if you’ve just met.

And finally, be wary of anyone who never reaches out to make plans a couple of days in advance.

Being spontaneous once in a while is cute but if you’re starting to feel like a last resort, it’s a serious red flag.

7. Have the courage to be disliked

@_traceymooreAre you a people pleaser? ##adviceforgirls ##advicetiktok ##confidencetips ##dailyaffirmations♬ original sound – _tmoore

To wrap up, here’s an amazing piece of advice for all my recovering people-pleasers out there: Have the courage to be disliked!

In this piece of TikTok dating advice, Tracey shares a mantra she relies on to remind herself it’s okay to be disliked: “I am not for everybody, and everybody is not for me.”

When you put yourself out there, you’re bound to come across people who don’t click with you and vice-versa.

It’s not an indicator of your value as a person and you shouldn’t take it personally.

Final thoughts

There’s a lot of TikTok dating advice out there for women and men so I hope this compilation has inspired you or even opened your eyes in some way.

Don’t forget to give these creators a follow if you’re using the platform – it’s so important to boost their message so other women can discover them as well!

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